END OF AN ERA

if my friends and their blog posts weren't sappy enough, here i am, coming at y'all with a super lame and heartfelt post about my freshman year of college coming to an end.

well...yay!!! for finally being done with all of my finals, tests, speeches, and blah blah. college is definitely no joke and it surely kicked my ass, but I'm proud of myself for not giving up and managing some good grades for my first year!!! but, i'm not going to sit and ramble on about the essays and endless amounts of lecture notes that consumed my life these past few months. i'd actually like to talk a lil' about this wonderful group of people i've met and consider some of my best friends. if you're an OG follower and remember my tumblr version of this blog, i did a little ramble about how college changed me and how i feel much more comfortable in SF and blah blah; this is kind of where I'm going back to..i was soooo scared that i wasn't going to find any friends in college. it was a new setting, a new school, and a brand new challenge to take on. my childhood friends were all over the state, while some 2 hours away, back in vacaville. this first night in the dorms, i cried because i missed my parents already and my anxiety made me think i was going to be a huge loner and have this awful experience.

within like, a month, things quickly turned around. somehow, i managed to find this kick-ass group of gals. we are all so different, yet similar, in like 100 ways.

(not all of us are pictured, but it's still one of my faves)

they have introduced me to so many cool things!!!! there was so much that i did with them that i don't think i would have ever done if i were still at home in vacaville. i got my septum pierced,  i've gone to live shows and moshed my butt off, started thrifting way more, i started blogging again, and sooooo much more. not only that, but these gals have shown me a great deal of life lessons that i will keep in my mind for as long as i can. the amount of self confidence right now is all thanks to having such a supportive and wonderful group of people surrounding me. also, whenever I'm with them i know I'm going to be crying because they make me laugh SOOO hard, and usually over nothing!!!! (we all just think were that funny)

it's going to be so weird not waiting until 5pm to have dinner at shitty eats with them, plan little outings on the weekends, and spend every other waking moment in between with them. i mean shit, look at all of the fun we have together:

ahhhh, looking back on all of these photos makes me so happy!!! because these humans make me so happy!!!! i could go on and on about how each of these individuals have shown me something super special and how unique and amazing they are but i would be here for a couple of days. yeah, we butt heads on stuff and probably get annoyed of each other 90% of the time, but at the end of the day, i don't think i could have found a better group of friends. here's to more memories, more laughs, more tears, and more adventures to come. 'till the gang is together again (in june LMAO), peace out, goodnight. I LOVE U CHICAS!!!!!! 

xoxo, mal plum

BAD DAY?

man, you know when you have one of those days/weeks/weekends where life is literally taking a huge dump on you? it sucks. so bad. i mean, my life is still fine, but crappy things just kept happening to me this past weekend. is this karma? i know i forgot to floss that one day, but why punish me this bad?

first, i kept messing up at my new job. nothing major, it's just that new person stigma, where you're still learning how things work, so you kind of have to suck before you get better?? anyone? yeah. i mean, my coworkers are SUPER nice and SUPER helpful, but i still get that gut feeling where i think i'm being this huge nuisance. blah, guilt. blah, anxiety.

secondly, the ball of septum ring fell out. this is the second time for this to happen too!!!!! anyone with a septum piercing probably knows how annoying this is. especially because the ball itself is so damn tiny and is impossible to track down. and you can't just buy 1 separate ball for the jewelry, you have to buy the whole damn thing again.

AND finally. not gonna get too into detail, but someone compromised my debit card and drained my account. how annoying :(((( i mean, thank god i wasn't ballin' or anything, but still, it sucks!!!! like please, go find your own money!!!!

i know i was just in fell complaint-mode, but now im going to turn it over to the brighter side of things. instead of being a bum and moping around about my crappy weekend, im going to remember that i have a new day ahead of me where i can make the most of it. start over, and just relax.

here are some things i like to do when im having a shit day/week/weekend!!!

-listen to a playlist of happy songs!!! (here's a little compilation of my favorite "happy" songs that make me feel good and fuzzy.)



- try to bake/cook something!!! food is always an easy way out, but i don't mean to just hit up mcdonald's and stuff your face. find a recipe that will occupy your mind! even if you're not a pro, it's still fun to experience it.

- surround with those that put a smile on your face!! whether that be your family, friends, or partner!!

- make up some drawings, or start a collage. something like journaling can be really soothing and calm me down!!

- WRITE IT OUT!!! this is probably one of my favorite ways to rid myself of the bad day. whatever it might of been that caused a bad day, i find it's really healthy to just physically write it all out, almost like you're ranting to someone. (you can actually talk to someone about it, but sometimes i just need to complain rather than get some feedback from another person, ya know?)